Groom’s mother sabotages wedding by tricking guests into wearing jorts and hoodies

'It's not our fault we got bad info about the dress code.'


Siobhan Ball

Internet Culture

Posted on Jun 24, 2019   Updated on May 20, 2021, 9:58 am CDT

The typical monster-in-law wears white to their son or daughter’s wedding. One creative mom found a new way to ruin the big day: She tricked guests into wearing jorts, hoodies, and baseball caps.

A redditor explained how her cousin, the groom, is now mad at her and her husband for showing up to his wedding reception in extremely casual attire: a hoodie, daisy dukes, and sandals.

“The day before the wedding, my aunt rounded up me and my family members and told us that she just found out that the dress code for the wedding was casual,” user u/DDR238 wrote in the r/AmItheAsshole (Am I the Asshole?) subreddit.

As it turns out, the wedding wasn’t casual at all, the groom’s mother just wanted to sabotage it, according to the redditor.

“I noticed that the bride’s family members were still dressed up but I figured they didn’t get the memo. The bride and groom and the wedding party were dressed to the nine’s which I thought was weird for a casual wedding,” the redditor wrote.

The aunt in question was unhappy that her son and his new wife were getting married at a national park instead of a church or banquet hall. The couple thought that it was “very disrespectful” for the guests to show up in the casual attire.

“TBH we think (the bride and groom) are overreacting because we all had fun at their wedding and it’s not our fault we got bad info about the dress code. And they never specified in the invitation. But I still have to ask. AITA?” the redditor asked.

Many think that the redditor is, in fact, the asshole for thinking that jorts and hoodies are appropriate–even for “casual” attire.

“YTA,” one user replied. “I would have been upset with you too.”

Others think the aunt in question is the real asshole here.

Even if the groom’s mother is the asshole, the couple is still upset that no one double checked with them before showing up, looking like slob-kabobs.

Many are siding with the redditor because they, too, think that casual means normal attire.

“I will be honest I would have assumed casual meant normal clothes as well,” one user replied.

The redditor later further detailed the extent of the aunt’s deception.

“My aunt told us that their wedding was a backyard cookout and we could wear whatever we wanted. It wasn’t a cookout the wedding was catered,” the redditor wrote.

People are clearly divided, with many thinking that there are actually two assholes here.

In the end, the redditor defended her aunt and justified not apologizing to her cousin.

“I didn’t apologize. I’m not close with my cousin and I feel awkward talking about it with him now I’d feel more comfortable getting my aunt to apologize to them on out behalf,” the redditor wrote.


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*First Published: Jun 24, 2019, 4:39 pm CDT