The holidays are upon us, which means cuffing season has officially arrived. Thus, lonely Twitter users around the globe are sliding into DM’s left and right—they’re trying to find that special someone who can cuddle the cold away. However, old flames are stepping forward with the ‘not the same meme’ to shut down all the flirting.
It all started with exes jokingly tweeting about the not-so-healthy behaviors your crush is probably exhibiting without your knowledge. So, before you start thinking you’re special for chatting over Twitter, take a look at the symptoms of REAL emotional ties.
You and their ex are ‘not the same’
You’re in her DMs.. she’s playing my old, stale and expired playlist collection when she’s with you “putting you on to new music”… we are not the same.
— “Moving in Silence” (@BabaAdejuyigbe) November 28, 2019
you’re in her DMs, i’m in her mind when she listens to frank ocean. we are not the same.
— 𝖇𝖑𝖔𝖓𝖉𝖊𝖉 (@blondedvibes) November 27, 2019
you’re in his dm’s, but my phone automatically connects to his wifi as soon as I get near his house. we’re not the same
— miri (@WeAllKnowA) November 28, 2019
you’re in his dm’s but we emotionally traumatized each other we are not the same
— sushi slut (@casstittyy) November 23, 2019
Of course, for every bona fide ex, there’s always someone who wasn’t quite as successful with romancing your crush. Cue the self-deprecating ‘not the same’ memes.
You’re in her DM’s. I’m her own personal therapist and she only talks to me when she needs emotional support. We are not the same
— Hood Picasso (@PvtrickWc3) November 25, 2019
you’re in his dms i’m in a constant state of suffering and self doubt and wondering where i went wrong. we not the same.
— fatima (@fatimatnv) November 23, 2019
Then, all the pop culture references came rolling in—movies, books, video games, you name it. Even the iconic SparkNotes Twitter account joined in on the fun.
you’re in his dms, i’m under his chef’s hat, controlling his arms like a marionette so he can cook at a fancy french restaurant. we are NOT the same.
— mari angel (@cpt_a_mari_ca) November 28, 2019
you're in his dms. i am locked in a cave trying to defeat a thousand year old legendary monster with him as he sings a personally composed song about us to calm me down. we are not the same
— #魔道祖师 (@incorrectmdzs) November 24, 2019
You're in her DMs, I've been turned to stone for daring to look upon her ghastly visage. We're not the same.
— SparkNotes (@SparkNotes) November 25, 2019
hozier be like: you're in her dms, and i am out here making elaborate metaphors about overthrowing authoritarian regimes and fighting against fascists, we are not the same
— dania (@gazeunafraid) November 23, 2019
You’re in her DMs, I have a haunted portrait in my attic that keeps me young and beautiful, we are not the same
— incorrigible mozart goose (@_jazzghost_) November 22, 2019
youre in her DMs and im in a cabin on her stardew valley farm in multiplayer mode we are NOT the same
— ˗ˏˋ BLACK LIVES MATTER ACAB ˎˊ˗ (@larsaddams) November 28, 2019
Rip to this meme, but we’re different
Simultaneously, Twitter and Tumblr users started comparing themselves to pop culture figures in a similar meme. ‘Rip to ___, but I’m different’ is the perfect way to call out fictional characters for their poor decision making. Stories ranging from Star Trek to Shakespeare to Greek myths were not immune to the good-natured criticism.
if all my friends were to kill me i would simply run away
rip to caeser but im different
— small cock gremlin (@goblinboyo) November 28, 2019
if i was fighting the winter soldier i would simply and tenderly tuck his hair behind his ear instead of dislocating his shoulder. rip to steve rogers but im different
— sputnik (@ihatesebstan) November 22, 2019
Memes do NOT stay the same
Meanwhile, the ‘you’re in their DM’s’ meme started really taking off. As a result, it evolved wildly out of control. Twitter users started making more exaggerated—and unrelated—variations of it.
Oh, you aren’t casting demonic hexes on your crush? We are NOT the same.
You’re in his dm’s I’m tied up in the trunk of his toyota camry we are not the same sis
— britney shears (@louisvcroutwo) November 26, 2019
Fortunately for everyone, there’s always at least one uplifting iteration of any cynical meme. Here’s a wholesome tweet to ease the pain of knowing you and your crush’s previous partner are not the same.
I’m in her DMs. You’re in her DMs. We are not the same because I’m a bestie checking up on tweets to make sure she’s okay and you’re her bf who is loving and kind in your own way. We serve different roles in her life. We are not the same.
— heehee hoohoo (@smoothbrainfool) November 20, 2019