Black men share screenshots of racist messages they receive on dating apps.

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Black men are sharing the racist messages they get on dating apps

'What am I supposed to reply to this????'


Samira Sadeque


Posted on Jan 26, 2021   Updated on Jan 26, 2021, 1:48 pm CST

A viral Twitter thread is highlighting the ridiculous—sometimes crass, often racist—messages that Black men get on dating apps like Tinder.

Twitter user @Ayyys_99 seemingly sparked the thread by accident after sharing a screenshot of a woman’s one-word opener on a dating app. 

The woman wrote “BLM,” the acronym for Black Lives Matter, with a fist emoji in Black skin tone. From the thumbnail of the woman’s dating profile, she doesn’t appear to be Black. “What am I supposed to reply to this????” @Ayyys_99 tweeted.

The tweet, which was posted on Saturday, went viral with more than 20,000 retweets. People, especially Black men, shared similar messages they’ve received on dating apps.

The messages are often out of the blue and play into the harmful stereotype that Black men are hypersexual. “I have never had a black dick…” one woman wrote amid a conversation about marijuana.

“Choke me w your durag,” read one greeting. “How’s your jollof?” one person wrote, referencing the popular West African rice dish.

Black men and women often face tone-deaf comments on dating apps, and oftentimes they’re subjected to blatant racism. One screenshot shows a Black woman received “WLM,” which stands for “white lives matter,” with a white fist as an opener.

Meanwhile, OkCupid reports that dating profiles increasingly reference to politics—including former President Barack Obama or the Black Lives Matter movement—in conversations that have nothing to do with them. The same goes for using “race” as a filter, which is reportedly being used more than ever before.

As the viral thread showed, however, out-of-touch and insulting messages on dating profiles aren’t limited to racism. Screenshots showed ableist language and vulgar sexism. The worst part is that the offenders really think they’ll get a date.

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*First Published: Jan 26, 2021, 1:47 pm CST