When Snapchat removed the ability to see users’ best friends, there was something of an uproar. The feature was a social status indicator—it created coveted friendships within the vast community of teen Snapchatters.
Being “old,” I can’t personally speak to its importance, but I’ve come to understand it as the digital version of wearing those half-heart necklaces that say “friends 4 eva.” It was visible, obvious, public, and intimate at the same time.
Yesterday, Snapchat brought best friends back, but it reimagined the entire construct of tiered friendships with its relationship emoji. Now, instead of a tiny little icon indicating your closest Snapchat contact, there’s an entire catalog of images that dictate what the people you Snap with mean to you.
The emoji are fun and cute, as emoji always are, but you can’t add a directory of visual relationship quantifiers without things getting competitive and confusing.
What if the person whom you thought was your best friend actually had the smirk emoji next to your name? What if your significant other has the fire emoji next to his or her ex? What if you have the fire emoji next to your ex?
The emoji update means nothing to casual Snapchat users like me. It’s fun and cute, and we’re moving right along. But for those whose lives revolve around using Snapchat as a major platform for communication, creativity, and socializing—namely, teens—chaos has descended.
when the snapchat update puts a heart by your exs name? oh no no— caffeine queen (@lillcoconut) April 7, 2015
May delete snapchat after this update. Knowing if I'm someones only BF or not is fuel to a fire in a woman's brain.— Liv ⚘ (@_OliviaSmart) April 7, 2015
snapchat lettin you know who bae is and if you are bae's bae— chadwick (@daschadwick) April 7, 2015
@bastardsxul the smirking one means you're one of their "best friends" on snapchat but their not one of yours— Shiba Emo (@princessaperu) April 7, 2015
A certain competitiveness has also emerged.
Other complaints stem from the fact that Snapchat got it wrong.
I don't need emojis to let me know that @NotDrLatimer is my snapchat BFF. Well, maybe I do. But my emojis, not snapchat's emojis.— mk (@MKonSports) April 7, 2015
when someone you dont talk to is your best friend on snapchat pic.twitter.com/zIuShcvEBh— chill fam (@kunkymatt) April 7, 2015
It’s not all overwhelming negativity, though. Teens have also expressed curiosity and even approval at their emoji-based relationship assignments.
According to snapchat Jordie is the four to my tris, the fire to my flame, and the smile to my face. @jordierussell13 pic.twitter.com/TLnYY3tg3T— Madelyn Buckingham (@mad_meets_world) April 7, 2015
The age of FOMO is officially over. From now on it will be Snapchat emoji envy and outing that causes Internet-age friendship anxiety.
It’s funny how an app that emphasizes disappearing messages and secret conversations has become the great relationship-outer of our time.
So much for ephemerality.
Illustration by Max Fleishman