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Are these international dating apps legit?

The reality behind ’90 Day Fiancé.’


Matt Silverman


Anyone in a long-distance relationship will tell you how hard it can be. And dating or marrying across countries comes with a huge list of expenses and immigration headaches. While people from different countries meet and fall in love all the time, why would anyone seek out a relationship with these complications from the start?

The “mail order bride” concept has been around for centuries, and the modern equivalent is dating apps that facilitate specific international relationships: ColumbianCupid, JamaicanDating, ChinaLoveCupid. There’s even a hit reality TV show called 90 Day Fiancé that has brought these apps into the zeitgeist. But as journalist Paul Schrodt discovered, while people sign up for these apps under a variety of circumstances, there is a prevailing theme: white, affluent American men connecting with attractive women from economically disadvantaged countries.

So, are these apps about fetishizing ethnicity and forming transnational relationships? Or is there something deeper to be gleaned from the successful marriages born out of international dating apps?

This week on 2 Girls 1 Podcast, Alli and Jen (actors who perform weird internet content on stage) talk to Schrodt about his experience using the apps and connecting with single men and women from around the globe.

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