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Is Tinder actually good for modern relationships?
Don’t worry, Tinder isn’t killing romance.
1. Most People Were Just As Monogamous On The App As Off
Yeah, some people use Tinder for hookups — and that’s fine. Somepeople want hookups. So it’s a way for those people to connect. But if you’re looking for a relationship, 72 percent of users were just as monogamous using Tinder as when they don’t. This means there are plenty of people looking for a monogamous relationship, if that’s what you’re into. “On the surface, the proliferation of hookup apps might make it seem seem as though romance is dead and all anyone (particularly men) is looking for is sex,” relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein, LCSW tells Bustle. “But once we scratch the surface it seems that people are not that different today from how they always were… If most people try their best to be loyal and monogamous while in a relationship, why should they be any different just because the relationship was started from an app?”
2. It Gives People More Opportunity
Swiping apps are giving people access to potential partners they wouldn’t meet otherwise. And that’s not an advertisement— that’s what users think. Eighty-seven percent felt they had more opportunities as a result of this technology. I certainly felt that way and, for a lot of LGBT people, the IRL pool can be small, so meeting people online is a godsend.
3. It Provides Users With A Sense Of Control
I know dating apps can make feel like you’re a little lost at seasometimes— especially when you first use them. But once you wrap your head around it, you actually might feel like it gives you way more control. In fact, 66 percent said that they felt like they had more control over romantic and sexual encounters and a sense of agency. And I think that’s great. Many people complain that dating today feels a little unpredictable and out of control, and I get that. I’ve certainly felt that way. But if you use these apps with a certain outcome in mind and actually commit yourself to sending some messages and going on dates, then they can actually help you weather the storm. So let’s start admitting that these apps might actually be helping us.