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This abusive boyfriend is earnestly asking for legal advice after his girlfriend kicks him out

A thread on Reddit has the internet siding with the abused girlfriend.


Lyz Lenz


Posted on Aug 17, 2016   Updated on May 26, 2021, 6:02 am CDT

Today in “this guy has some nerve,” a man who admitted to hitting his girlfriend was unhappy and confounded when her lawyer asked him to move out of their shared apartment. Naturally, the guy turned to Reddit for some legal advice in a post titled “My girlfriend elaborately made me homeless.” 

His efforts to explain the situation backfired when nearly everyone on the thread sided with his girlfriend. He wrote:

Two years ago my girlfriend and I had a small DV incident where I hit her. It was wrong of me. I completely owned it and apologized. I was incensed about something I found on her phone but that is absolutely not excuse. She left for a few days but didn’t call the cops. She eventually came back home. We finished out our lease and things were fine. We even moved to a better apartment earlier this year with the same landlord. My girlfriend insisted on handling the lease and making all the payments on everything, which is fine. I gave her the money for my half of the bills and keep asking her when I needed to sign the lease with her. She said there was no need and that the landlord hadn’t required it. 

The poster went on to explain that recently they had gotten into a couple more “spats” but insists he didn’t hit her again. And then, on August 16 after he left for work, he was contacted by his girlfriend’s attorney.

This morning when I left for work, everything seemed fine but I got a call from a lawyer friend of hers informing me that I had 45 days to move out of the apartment. I try to call her and can’t. I’m blocked on her phone. I leave work and go home and find her car gone and all her stuff gone. I call the landlord and he tells me that he had no idea I was living there, the lease is under her name only, only she signed it. He says that he isn’t my landlord, she is and I need to talk to her. 

The majority of the Reddit advice in the thread (which is now closed) praised the girlfriend for her legal prowess and encouraged the boyfriend, who uses the Reddit name tumanityanyway, to comply.

Within the thread, the boyfriend, admits that these “spats” involved the police, which sheds a lot more light on the situation.

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The article has since gone viral, with all of the internet weighing in on the situation and calling the girlfriend a hero.

The Reddit thread has basically become a good primer on how to leave an abusive partner.

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*First Published: Aug 17, 2016, 1:38 pm CDT