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What female men’s rights activists talk about on Reddit

Heads up, women feeling frustrated by feminism's emphasis on social and sexual gender equality: Men's rights activists are here for you. 


Aja Romano


Posted on Jun 19, 2013   Updated on Jun 1, 2021, 1:08 pm CDT

Heads up, women feeling frustrated by feminism’s emphasis on social and sexual gender equality: Men’s rights activists (MRAs) are here for you.

Infamous Reddit men’s rights forum The Red Pill now has an offshoot, Red Pill Women. The newly launched subreddit is welcome to any woman who can acknowledge her “biological imperative to procreate” and accept that men just aren’t going to listen to her when she talks about what she wants out of a relationship.

The Red Pill’s reference to The Matrix implies that wising up to the evils of feminism is like waking up from an extended grand social delusion. Red Pill Women has extended the wake-up call to women on the dating scene.

In a lengthy introduction, forum mod redpillschool tries to argue that women and men are bound by laws of biology and economics to have drastically different gender roles and standards for sexual behavior. Women, they argue, are pickier about whom they sleep with because of the chance of pregnancy, while men are inclined to have lower standards because the costs of sex are low risk. 

In addition to conflating all sexual behavior with pursuit of “high-caliber DNA,” redpillschool also blames feminism for, well, the 20th century:

[T]he past half a century was the march of feminism telling women that they don’t need to do anything for men, that they are perfect and don’t need to change, that change or compromise is oppression, and that you can have it all. A career, kids, family, education- it’s all yours.

The problem is that our culture ended up self indulgent with no long-term goals, and thusly- no long term happiness (at least where family is concerned).

With divorce rates skyrocketing, single motherhood increasing, never-marrieds piling up, and hook-up culture and one night stands at an all time high, people are reaching 35 going… where’s my family?

The solution to this dilemma, according to redditor men’s rights activists, is not changes in economics, class structure, government benefits, or social programs. Rather, it’s for men to stop listening to women about what they want from their relationships.

The problem I’ve seen with female-based sexual strategy forums is that they inevitably focus on what’s politically correct. They focus on tempering the message so as not to offend. Because ladies, like it or not, our entire culture currently revolves around not offending you. Seriously. That’s today’s culture. … We have an unofficial rule on /r/theredpill that basically amounts to: don’t listen to women about sexual strategy. It’s not that we don’t like women, it’s that women really have a hard time seeing past what they like to understand men have a different palate.

What’s a “good” sexual strategy? Maybe something like this nugget of wisdom from a Reddit pick-up artist’s recently funded Kickstarter:

Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances. …

Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.

Shocker: The women of the Internet are not impressed by this kind of blatant disregard.

Well, most of them.

The men and women of The Blue Pill, a metasubreddit that sarcastically mocks the aims and perceived sexism of The Red Pill, have been combing through Red Pill Women and posting some of the more hilarious comments and self-proclaimed examples of “activism” that have come through the forum so far, including two gems from Redditor jack500:

No adoptions or raising other men’s kids either. If you don’t want to bear my children, I don’t want you as a wife.


I don’t even understand what “equal relationship” means. Not kidding, no snark, I just don’t even understand the concept. Is that like a gay marriage or something?

So far, discussion on the Red Pill Women has centered heavily on redpillschool’s “biological imperative” argument. Everything from what women should wear to how they should do their hair is discussed within the framework of what the forum assumes should be the ultimate goal: finding a mate and procreating. If you are queer, transgendered, or just someone who doesn’t want kids, you may begin to feel that you’ve fallen down the proverbial rabbit hole. 

That’s a sure sign you’re on an MRA forum.

H/T ManBoobz | Photo via stefan_ledwina/Flickr; remix by Fernando Alfonso III

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*First Published: Jun 19, 2013, 4:36 pm CDT