Katelyn Bowman proposes to her boyfriend during a Grand Rapid Griffins hockey game.

Screengrab via griffvision/YouTube Remix by Samantha Grasso

Woman proposes to boyfriend, smashes patriarchy during Michigan hockey game

Take that, patriarchy.


Samantha Grasso


The future (of heteronormative marriage proposals) is female!

During a Grand Rapids Griffins hockey game in Grand Rapids, Michigan, Griffins fans bore witness to a sight not commonly seen—a woman asking a man for his hand in marriage.

Video of the proposal, which was uploaded to the team’s YouTube account on Thursday, shows a woman and her boyfriend turning toward each other during a kiss cam shot, followed by a written message on the screen. “Anthony will you marry me?” it asks.

Flash back to the woman popping out a ring box and getting out of her seat to kneel in front of him, while her boyfriend is still staring up at the screen in a stupor. We can’t see his face, but he leans toward her and gives her a kiss as the crowd cheers. A second camera angle shows him pumping his first.

“We may have just seen a first here… When I say we had a proposal in the building, that’s certainly not the first,” a commentator says over the footage. “It was the gal asking the guy.”

“Yeah, I’ve never seen that here, to be honest with you,” a second commentator replies.

According to an account that’s commented on the video, the woman who led the proposal is Katelyn Bowman. She commented explaining why she proposed to him instead of keeping the proposal traditionally patriarchal.

“I am the woman in the video.. our relationship has been over the course of almost seven years and he proposed after our third year and had a break up going into our sixth year,” Bowman wrote. “I proposed this time showing him I know he is the one for me and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Keep negative comments to yourself please, thank you! Have a blessed [day.]”

Watch the full video of the proposal below:

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