We all know the internet is a very horny place. There is no contesting this. In fact, the internet has become such a horny place that in 2018 Twitter finally embraced it with the horny on main movement, in which everybody just sort of unabashedly let their freak flags fly—whether it be the form of the Beto Sex Tweet or Bowsette phenomenon.
And with the outpouring of fervent sexual urges on the internet naturally comes creative new ways of expressing said urges, which bring us to the latest phrase blowing up on Twitter. “Top me,” or alternatively “top me I deserve it,” started sprouting up on lesbian Twitter back in January.
Mostly, it seems to have gained popularity as a way of reacting to the Oscar-nominated film The Favourite—starring Olivia Colman as Queen Anne of Great Britain, and Rachel Weisz and Emma Stone as two cousins vying for her attention that results in a salacious same-sex love triangle.
Colman picked up with Oscar for best actress on Sunday. But people seem especially enamored with Weisz in particular, who has received the lion’s share of the memes directed at her.
— panchhi 🦋🥔 (@catexblanchett) January 7, 2019
top—and i can't stress this enough—me, rachel weisz pic.twitter.com/4GfpB54N9W
— Hannah Giorgis (@ethiopienne) February 25, 2019
rachel weisz, for the sake of my gay ass please top me pic.twitter.com/QRtT1KH8Y1
— nadia (@cvteblunt) February 5, 2019
I finally watched The Favourite. Rachel Weisz can top me anytime. pic.twitter.com/TXI2l6eTvB
— QoB (@for_cersei) February 23, 2019
The exact origins of the phrase are unknown, although an Urban Dictionary entry from earlier this month defines it as: “Wanting someone to beat you up … He/She/They can top me any day!”
A search on Twitter likewise turns up examples from mid-2018, before the phrase really picked up steam, as you can see in this example in this fangirling meme featuring Tessa Thompson in Thor: Ragnarok and Hannah John-Kamen in Ant-Man and the Wasp.
please top me i deserve it pic.twitter.com/fyDgH42PJz
— alia ♡ yoosung route 2.0 (@Iokified) June 6, 2018
The Rachel Weisz incarnation of the meme quickly outgrew itself and sort of imploded, as you can see by tweets documenting the phenomenon from comedian Samantha Ruddy:
lesbian twitter has made a full transformation into Rachel Weisz, Top Me twitter
— Samantha Ruddy (@samlymatters) January 7, 2019
I miss “top me, Rachel Weisz” twitter :(
— Samantha Ruddy (@samlymatters) February 12, 2019
When asked for some insight of how she thought it became a thing, Ruddy told the Daily Dot simply enough that Weisz was just “super toppy in The Favourite and I think that’s probably where it came from.” In other words, it just goes to show that not everything on the internet requires a super complicated explanation.
Additional examples eventually began emerging, spotlighting other strong, assertive women, and the people—queer or otherwise—who fantasize of being dominated by them:
TOP ME I DESERVE IT pic.twitter.com/fsoRumr3ki
— ً (@atomictheron) February 15, 2019
lily tomlin, fuckin top me please, goddamn! pic.twitter.com/toIy6xIyhz
— 𝓈 💀 (@gracesfonda) February 22, 2019
Not surprisingly, the character of Alex Chapman (Laura Prepon) from Orange is the New Black received a few nods directed her way:
This was such a look..top me pic.twitter.com/JAxj3fGnqG
— Tαshαα (@JunkieForOITNB) February 23, 2019
As did up-and-coming Captain Marvel superhero Brie Larson—in her stunning Academy Awards look:
TOP ME OH KY GOD PLEASE MAAM I DESERVE IT pic.twitter.com/eRgJZPki1K
— d ᵕ̈ (@wlwomen) February 25, 2019
TOP ME PLEASE pic.twitter.com/sJWYRT2iEO
— ً (@budapeshoteI) February 25, 2019
And, for some reason, Jason Momoa’s pink Oscars scrunchie got thrown into the mix:
I want Jason Momoa’s Fendi scrunchie to top me. pic.twitter.com/mDv5RselAP
— Alexis “Bring Back Bunheads” Wilson (@sassyblackdiva) February 25, 2019
It seems only a matter of time before the phrase and meme get appropriated by straight, cis Twitter, and inevitably jumps the shark. But for now, let’s hear it for all the badass bitches out there and those who stan for them.
vera farmiga you are cordially to top me anytime you are free pic.twitter.com/yups5saxuD
— ً (@greedycaos) February 28, 2019