In the film, 16-year-old, half-Korean high school junior Lara Jean copes with her crushes on boys by writing them sealed love letters, which she keeps hidden away in a teal hatbox her late mother gave her. The strategy works until the letters “accidentally” get mailed and wacky hijinks ensue.
Eventually, Lara Jean (spoiler alert!) ends up making a real connection with one of the boys from her letters and (ostensibly) they live happily ever after—or whatever the expiration date is on a teen relationship, anyway.
Jenny Han, the author of the 2014 New York Times best-seller that the movie was inspired by, used her own experiences of writing secret letters to boys she had crushes on as a teenager.
Like most films in the genre, To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before paints a dewy, innocent look at teen love through rose-colored glasses. Of course, that’s unfortunately not how real life romance always works. As a result, a sardonic backlash to the film has been growing on Twitter in the form of a meme riffing off the partial title of the movie.
You can see a few examples below:
To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before I Started Going to Therapy— Sarah Kay (@kaysarahsera) August 25, 2018
To All The Boys I Provided Emotional Support For As They Pursued Thinner Girls— soph (@SophiaCK) August 25, 2018
to all the boys i’ve loved before until i realized love is just a social construct created to deal with the reality that our sole purpose in this world is to reproduce because it’s too hard to accept that there isn’t a greater meaning to life than mere survival— gabbie hanna (@GabbieHanna) August 25, 2018
To All The Boys I’ve Realized I Had Real Feelings For Only After I’d Already Crushed Our Relationship Into Tiny Bite-Sized Pieces— ellie schnitt (@holy_schnitt) August 25, 2018
To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before they couldn’t pronounce my name correctly.— Elinam Vanessa Agbo (@evagbo) August 24, 2018
💞 to all the boys i’ve thought i was in love with after talking to for approximately 4 minutes 💞— James Charles (@jamescharles) August 24, 2018
to all the boys i’ve ever loved until they expressed their views on social and political issues— tasmi (@tasmiimlak) August 25, 2018
At least one person used the meme to make a statement about gender and sexuality:
To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before Because I Lived In A Heteronormative Society And Didn’t Know I Could Love Girls Too— bhavi (@polychromesoul) August 25, 2018
And I’m backing away slowly from this one:
Even Netflix Canada got in on the action with this far too relatable example:
To All The Boys I've Loved Before but instead of my sister leaking letters, it's me drunk texting 5 guys that were nice to me once— Netflix Canada (@Netflix_CA) August 24, 2018
If only we could all be so lucky to have a hunky dreamboat like Peter Kavinsky in our lives. Oh well. A girl (or guy) can always hope.