How often we have sex is something that can affect many things in our lives from our mood to our physical health. Society would have men believe they are supposed to be thinking about and even doing the deed 24/7/365. However, recent scientific data says there isn’t much difference between the genders when it comes to sex drive. Still, perception can be everything. Fellas, if you’ve noticed your sex drive seems lower recently here are some tips for how to cum more often.
How to cum more often: a step-by-step guide
Step 1: Erectile dysfunction and its causes
Often thought only to affect older gentlemen, erectile dysfunction (ED) can be the culprit when it comes to a lower sex drive in men of all ages. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, and even stress can all cause erectile dysfunction. Even medications you are prescribed can add to the problem.
Some prescriptions such as antidepressants and those for male pattern baldness have side effects that can cause ED. Getting to the root of the cause is important and something you should discuss with a medical professional. Never stop taking medication without first discussing it with your doctor.
In the meantime, while there are pharmaceutical answers to this troubling issue, if you’re looking for help that doesn’t include a little blue pill, never fear, we know what can help.
Studies have linked sleep apnea to reduced desire in men. In one study, researchers who studied 401 men with suspected sleep apnea found that 70 percent also had ED. Researchers stated that “ED and overall sexual dysfunction were highly prevalent in patients with suspected [obstructive sleep apnea].”
Although sleep apnea can affect both genders, men are four times more likely than women to have it. There are a number of factors that can lead someone to develop sleep apnea, including a large neck circumference and obesity.
Sleep apnea can be a serious health problem, and people who have certain kinds of sleep apnea can actually stop breathing during sleep. If you suspect you have sleep apnea, it’s important to talk about it with a doctor.
Non-pharmaceutical help for erectile dysfunction
A proven treatment developed by urologists and ED specialists, Eddie by Giddy is a wearable device designed to fit you. Slide Eddie to the base of your penis with the open side facing down. You create desired constriction using either a sport or comfort band around both legs of Eddie.
Once you’re stimulated, Eddie optimizes blood flow to help maintain your erection. Eddie’s unique design fits the penis comfortably and constricts only where it’s needed—for healthier erections and satisfying ejaculation. Unlike novelty cock rings or other toys, Eddie is shaped to fit your penis more naturally.
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Step 2: Spicing things up
Sometimes we just need to spice things up in our lives when our sex drive has decreased. Variety is the spice of life after all and never more so than in the bedroom. Whether you’re partnered or solo, you can change things up and make your desires run wild. Often when we’ve been in a relationship for a while and we’re past the honeymoon phase, we get complacent.
We feel we don’t need to be romantic or even sexy any longer because we’re already together so what’s the point? That can make things in the bedroom die a slow and painful death.
Living the fantasy life
While fantasies usually live in our minds, only to be brought out so to speak when we’re alone and doing our own thing, we can share them with our partners and bring some smoldering spice back into our sex lives.
Remember, just because we fantasize about something doesn’t mean we want to actualize it. We can talk about it with our partners and make it just as hot as going out and doing it. Consider finding porn the two of you can watch together. You could try acting out the scenes or just allowing it to get you further in the mood.
Toys aren’t just for kids
One of the easiest ways to bring the heat for couples or solo sessions is to add sex toys to the mix. There are so many options these days that it might be hard to choose where to start. If you’re new to this, don’t fret, there are fantastic items out there for you. Here are two of our favorites to get you started.
For couples, the We-Vibe Match is a great place to start. It fits comfortably between you and your partner. While in the act, the We-Vibe Match stays in place as you and your partner move in concert. This sex toy’s clever design features not just deep, powerful vibrations for dual stimulation. Even better, its wireless remote control leaves your hands free to explore your partner’s other erogenous zones.
There are 10 vibration modes, and using the remote, you can switch between them until you hit the perfect combination of g-spot and clitoris stimulation. This is truly the ultimate couple’s toy for couple play and partnered sex!
2) Arcwave Ion
If you’re going solo, the Arcwave Ion is going to take you places you’ve never gone before. Arcwave Ion has taken the male orgasm experience to another level. Future-forward technology and durable materials combine for peak performance and style. If you’ve used a stroker before, just forget that experience and recalibrate it with this phenomenal toy.
Step 3: Make time to cum
In the end, taking time out of our busy schedules for ourselves is what matters. Self-pleasure is self-care. You may want to cum more often and there’s nothing wrong with that, but ultimately having a better relationship with your sexual wellness and ultimately your body and yourself is what matters.
Work and the stresses of life take us out of the comfort zone that makes sexuality easy to access. Relax, unplug, and treat your sex life with respect. Whether you’re masturbating or making love, you need to be centered to get turned off. Ultimately be kind to yourself and don’t rush your sexuality. When you get to a place of peace, you’ll find you’re cumming more and cumming often!