Edging porn and orgasm denial (or control) are two things they don’t teach you about in school–hell, you’re lucky if you even have a (very brief) “sexual pleasure” lesson in your high school health class. So, if you have no idea what these acts entail but your partner has expressed interest in it or maybe you stumbled across some female orgasm denial porn and just want to know what it’s all about, well, you’re in for a real treat.
What is edging and orgasm denial?
While edging and orgasm denial are often grouped together, they are not exactly the same and yes, they’re both very different from the high-risk kink known as “edge play.” Edging and orgasm denial may be conceptually similar, but when referred to correctly, their outcomes are worlds apart.
Edging, also known as peaking, teasing, or orgasm training, is the act of “approaching the edge” of orgasm without jumping off the metaphorical cliff, over and over again. While edging seems to have grown in popularity over the recent years, the practice has actually been around since 1956 when it was dubbed the “stop and start method” by its creator James H. Semans (we swear it’s his real last name). So what makes it so hot? Well, there are actually a couple of reasons. Even though edging was first introduced as a practice to help people increase their sexual stamina before reaching climax, the practice reached “mainstream” status as people realized that not only could they last longer, their orgasms were way more intense. And because of the sexual intuition needed in order to execute this properly with a partner, it became a popular way for couples to really explore and learn each other’s bodies and tendencies. Now that’s hot!
Now that we’ve got edging covered, let’s talk about orgasm denial. It’s essentially the same practice of bringing yourself, or your partner, to the edge and withdrawing before orgasm, however, the main difference is that while edging ends in eventual peak climax, most types of orgasm denial end in the complete denial of orgasm.
Different ways to try edging and orgasm denial
It should be stated that of the two practices, edging is the more “mainstream” of the two. Orgasm denial, while still popular, is more commonly found in BDSM bedrooms, rather than explorative beginners’ bedrooms, for a multitude of reasons. When engaging in orgasm denial, there are many techniques that can be used, each more advanced than the last. So even though edging can be achieved through the use of almost any sex toy (the toys most recommended for female orgasm denial are clit vibes, BTW). While anyone can engage in solo orgasm denial by simply masturbating to the brink of climax but never allowing themselves to reach the true peak, different methods of orgasm denial require special toys and tools that aren’t found in any old toy basket. For example, if you’re going interested in hardcore orgasm denial, seeking the help of a professional dom would benefit you more than any high-tech personal massager or luxury restraints ever could.
While edging seems like an hour(s) tops activity, orgasm denial can stretch into a months-long timeframe. Yes, you can be the one denying your own orgasms, however, it’s more likely that a partner would be controlling that for you (not to mention even more enjoyable). Orgasm denial is so popular in the BDSM community because it speaks to Dom/sub relationships so well–one person completely relinquishes the climax of their sexual experience to the other. Denial, in its most basic state, involves one person in power bringing their partner to the brink of climax over and over but never letting them actually reach it. With its more advanced techniques, it can begin with some form of foreplay, which could lead to bondage, or restraint, teasing, chastity denial, and keyholding. All these things can be mind-blowing experiences when executed correctly. If your partner wants to explore the world of orgasm denial, make sure you’re both comfortable with the concept and set boundaries for yourselves. When both parties are completely immersed in this singular experience, the heights you might reach are unimaginable.
Best sites for edging porn and orgasm denial
If you want to do your research on orgasm denial and control or rather watch it than experience it, listed below are some of the best adult entertainment sites for edging porn.
Adult Time
Adult Time is basically the Netflix of both straight and gay edging porn. With a robust list of over 200 channels, 50,000 episodes, daily uploads and updates, and over 30 awards won in 2020 alone, Adult Time snags the coveted “ultimate subscription platform” award from us. Expect to find fantastic, award-winning original content, as well as popular titles from studios like Vixen, xConfessions, FemJoy, and more. Want to spice it up? There’s a category for that. Want to slow it down to something a bit softer? There’s also a category for that. The possibilities are endless and so are the films! If we were going to be stranded on an island, Adult Time would be the first thing we’d take.
Couples Cinema
Introducing porn into your relationship can be difficult. Couples Cinema takes the stress out by curating content from today’s top porn auteurs at a low price.
The difference between erotica and porn is often just pretension and intention. Take the artists making porn for couples at Couples Cinema. These creative adult films are made by the indie directors of adult cinema and put eroticism first. You can expect to see thoughtful camera angles and compelling emotional stories along with your orgies and cumshots.
This budget-priced site offers hundreds of films from a wide range of filmmakers. We suggest couples start with the aptly named Couple Fantasies films. It has the hottest performers, and its commitment to storytelling adds a relatable spark for new porn fans.
Kink.com
FemDom edging lovers rejoice! This site will be your new go-to for all things sticky, fetish, and kink. This is the first of sites on the list to offer the option to filter by sexual orientation before you even enter the site, with the options to choose either straight, gay, or both. As you might have assumed from the name, Kink.com specializes in videos with hardcore sex, kinks, and fetishes. It hosts content from 30+ popular studios, totaling over 12,000 videos on the site. The most impressive thing about the videos, however, is that they all run at least 45 minutes long, with most running feature-length. It’s not normal to have that many videos available of that length if you think about it–it almost doubles the number of videos since you’re probably not going to watch a full-length film every time you go on the site. As well as providing an extensive library of content, Kink.com offers a cam site, VR site, and shop where you can purchase lingerie and toys ranging in value. This is truly your one-stop-shop for all things kink and fetish.
Wasteland BDSM
When you join Wasteland BDSM, you’re not just paying for another BDSM porn site, you’re paying for a community of like-minded people and access to the largest curation of BDSM movies and films. The Wasteland site is updated three times per week, and has been for 20 years. So its collection of over two million photos and 2,500 original movies is nothing to be overlooked. Some of the most popular categories on the site are Shibari, bondage, and other kinky fetishes. Although the site doesn’t allow for the most generous previews prior to memberships, it does offer free snippets of each video in two-minute-long scenes. Wasteland’s bonus features include access to live cam sites, podcasts, audiobooks, and kinky community. If you’re truly a BDSM fanatic, Wasteland BDSM is the site for you hands down.
FemDom Empire
If you’re looking for hardcore edging porn videos with female doms, this is most definitely the site for you. FemDom makes the list because of its stunning variety of fetishes and kinks–from a human ashtray to body bag, oral servitude, and of course, edging and orgasm denial, this website has it all. Featuring award-winning performers and dommes like fan-favorite Riley Reid, Adriana Chechik, and Ariana Marie, you can be sure that FemDom will deliver on quality. Forget scouring the web for four-minute clips of your desired kink and subscribe to FemDom now!
xConfessions
Oh wow, xConfessions. Created by the boss director in porn herself, Erika Lust, this site is everything (gay) double penetration porn should be. A membership includes full access to all the content on the site, as well as the ability to anonymously post your own fantasies to an online wall with the lucky chance Erika herself will develop it into an erotic short film. Other membership perks include access to all anonymously posted confessions, unlimited streaming of over 150 films, and 10 free downloads per month. If you’ve been searching for quality films that showcase women’s pleasure in a sex-positive and sexually intelligent narrative created from relatable fantasies, look no further.
Lust Cinema
Lust Cinema is another beautiful creation from one of my favorite directors, Erika Lust. This site boasts a robust selection of top tier films and Lust Originals. Once you pop open a tab, a tantalizing slideshow of Lust Cinema’s newest features engulfs the screen to display tasteful and sensual covers. The homepage’s categories are split into the latest/newest additions, movies, short series, and original content. But with over 120 films to choose from it’s easy to lose your spot (which is why we recommend opening the films that pique your interest in a new tab). One of the best features on the site is the Netflix series style of porn that engages actors over a period of short films to further a storyline. If this realistic approach to porn sounds too good to be true, add on the two-for-one deal (that’s two months of premium for the price of one) happening now for new members and it’s almost like entering a fairy tale! Plus, you can feel good about your subscription since Lust Cinema is widely regarded as one of the best shops in the industry. It’s also known to fairly employ all of its performers and strive for equitable, ethical porn.
PinkLabel.TV
PinkLabel has established itself as one of the heavy hitters in amateur edging porn. Created by Pink and White’s director and founder Shine Houston, the site hosts over 50 different indie porn studios (including Erica Lust, Pink and White Productions, and many more). PinkLabel’s communities are comprised of queer, trans, POC, seniors, and people with disabilities. The people behind the site understand porn markets go beyond the stereotypes and do their part in showcasing underrepresented groups in the adult film industry.
This ethical hosting site offers a premium membership featuring a curated collection of hundreds of titles, unlimited access to the films, and a permanent streaming library. All memberships help support PinkLabel’s own featured independent directors and studios. So if you’re looking to whet your appetite with various high-quality films showcasing diversity in porn made by and for minorities in the industry, PinkLabel is your best bet.
CrashPadSeries
From Shine Houston comes the CrashPad Series, based on Houston’s cult classic original film The Crash Pad. This series follows the original plot with all episodes based in a San Francisco apartment that’s dedicated to hosting queer sex events. In my opinion, the best feature of this site is the content. In terms of diversity and real sex, you can’t do better than the CrashPad series. The models are natural beauties in all shapes and sizes from all backgrounds, sexual identities, orientations, and races. To top it all off, the chemistry is so intense it almost feels like an out of body experience. There are over 300 episodes in the series and each episode contains its own behind the scenes footage. Members also have access to the library of feature-length films, including the original CrashPad movie that inspired the series.
In an unprecedented move, CrashPad Series features a “hide” toggle, so before you go sifting through all the glorious porn, you can choose to filter and hide videos that contain scenes with ejaculation, consensual rough sex (including choking, flogging, spitting, slapping, etc.), fisting, BDSM, anal play (anal penetration, rimming, butt plugs, etc.), strap-ons and wearable vibrators.
IndiePornRevolution
IndiePornRevolution should be on the radar of anyone talking about gay edging porn for female orgasm denial videos. Originally NoFauxxx.com, Indie Porn Revolution was founded by the queen of queer porn themself, Courtney Trouble. At the age of 19, Courtney created and launched the site (which is now the longest-running queer porn website) and has since directed and starred in over 50 films and scenes. IPR is a queer paradise, highlighting the community like no other and giving a voice to anyone who wants to be heard. The platform is as unique as its content, almost resembling a blog. Amidst the videos and the models, members can access and download erotic photosets and watch cum&glitter, a sponsored live sex show site run entirely by sex workers, artists, and porn stars in the Bay Area. If you’re a history buff with a penchant for queer porn of all shapes and sizes, give the oldest queer porn site a chance.
r/DeniedGirls
If you’re looking to satiate your desire for female orgasm denial porn for free, you might want to head over to Reddit. More specifically, r/DeniedGirls. This subreddit takes amateur edging porn and clips of orgasm denial videos and puts them all in one convenient place. I, usually don’t like to recommend free porn because it’s usually stolen, but times are tough right now and exceptions can be made–especially for r/DeniedGirls, since an overwhelming majority of the posts are submitted by the users themselves, it’s a relatively guilt-free experience. Bonus points if you subscribe to the performers’ private pages!
Whether you’re in the mood for a night of edging, orgasm denial viewing, or trying to engage in the acts yourself, these sites are all great places to jump off from. When engaging in any new sexual act, with or without a partner, it’s imperative that you know what you’re doing! Proper tools like lubrication and safe words can make or break your experience. We would hate for you to forgo what might have been an otherwise pleasurable sexual journey.
The Daily Dot may receive a payment in connection with purchases of products or services featured in this article. Click here to learn more.