Queer women reclaim the word ‘girlfriend’ on National Girlfriends Day

August 1 is National Girlfriends Day–a day that comes around once a year, and platonic, female friends from all over celebrate one another. Yet, this year is different. Queer women have taken up the hashtag #NationalGirlfriendsDay to ask heterosexual women to stop using the word “girlfriend” when referencing their friends.

One Twitter user suggested they use “human friends” or “true friends” instead.

“I do wish hetero women would stop referring to platonic friends as ‘girlfriends’ because every time you do that I’m like ‘oooh, hello fellow non-monogamous lesbian’ and it makes things awkward,” she wrote.

Even though National Girlfriends Day is meant to celebrate heterosexual female friendships, some users misinterpreted it to be about romantic partners anyway, with lots of queer women celebrating their significant other.



Petition to redefine the day, please!


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Siobhan Ball

Siobhan Ball

Siobhan Ball is a historian, archivist, and journalist. She also writes for Autostraddle and bi.org