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More toys = more joy.

When it comes to your budding boudoir romance (whether shared or solo), learning how to use sex toys doesn’t have to be awkward. I’m not going to lie to you, though – there may be a few fumbles. But have you ever perfected a skill on your first try? Yeah, didn’t think so.

Whether you’re looking to spice things up with a partner or just want to treat yourself to some sexy self-care products (yes, masturbation is a form of self-care!) it’s best if you’re already acquainted with your body. Now, we know this may sound odd as sex toys have often been used as a form of self-exploration, but just knowing the basics of what feels good to you and, of course, what you’re comfortable with will make shopping a whole lot easier.

That being said, when it comes to sex toys and masturbation there are some lingering stigmas that apparently still need to be smashed:

If a woman masturbates she won’t have as good of an orgasm during sex.

Female masturbation does NOT affect your ability to orgasm during sex! If I had a penny for everytime someone said that they refrained from masturbating solely because they “didn’t want to ruin their sex drive,” I’d be able to afford every LELO product and then some. Sorry not sorry ladies, but if this is why you’ve been holding back, it’s been for no good reason. There’s one simple way to combat this “problem”: variation. Masturbating won’t affect your ability to orgasm, but you can “build up a tolerance” to certain feel-good motions. In other words, you may become less sensitive to repeated action, but that in no way means you won’t be able to O! Just switch it up from time to time and you’ll be fine. After all, do you have sex the same way every single time? I sure as hell hope not.

Masturbating is unhealthy.

This statement couldn’t be more wrong. According to Dr. Megan Fleming, masturbation actually keeps your sex pilot light on. She says, “Orgasms are so good for us and for our nervous systems. They release dopamine and oxytocin, our bodies’ natural feel-good hormones that help [in] resetting our body’s chemistry and our mind’s perspective on life and relationships.”  So not only does masturbation make you become more comfortable with your body, you’ll be comfortable IN it. So practicing some regular “self-love” is actually really healthy and really important – especially for young girls. Additional health benefits include:

  • reduced stress
  • better sleep
  • relief from menstrual cramps and muscle tension

There’s a limit to how often you should masturbate.

Nah. If you’re horny and wanna get off (or just wanna make yourself feel good), do it – it’s as simple as that. According to Planned Parenthood, masturbation only becomes a problem when it starts to interfere with your responsibilities and social life.

Now, onto the good stuff: how do you use sex toys, exactly?

Even though dildos, vibrators, Ben Wa balls, and butt plugs are all designed with an “intended use,” how you use them is really up to you. Now I’m not saying to ignore the warning labels or throw out the directions – in fact, you should definitely read any guides that come with your toys. But, it is totally recommended to get creative with your collection and especially have fun with it!

Listed below are some of the most recommended products for people learning how to use sex toys. Already have experience? No worries, you can enjoy these too!

1) The Orlena “sucking” vibrator by Cheven

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Intended use: clitoral stimulation

Body safe | Three suction levels | Eight modes | Waterproof

Price: $34.95

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2) The KAYA rabbit vibrator by LELO

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Intended use: simultaneous external and deep internal stimulation

Body safe | Near silent | 12 modes | Waterproof | Easy-to-clean

Price: $94.95

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3) The Hisonlee anal trainer kit

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Intended use: anal training, prostate and G-spot stimulation

Body safe | Suction cup base | Four graduating sizes | Easy-to-clean

Price: $14.99+

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4) A rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand

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Intended use: clitoral stimulation

Body safe | Quiet | Four vibration patterns | Four intensity levels | Easy-to-clean

Price: $94.95 (regularly $139.95)

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5) The Hyperrealistic silicone dildo by Anfei

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Intended use: G-spot and prostate stimulation

Dual-layer body safe silicone | Suction cup base | Easy-to-clean | Molded from a real penis

Price: $35.99 (regularly $149.99) 

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6) This remote-controlled vibe by PALOQUETH

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Intended use: clitoral, G-spot, and prostate stimulation

Body safe | Near silent | Nine modes | Waterproof | Easy-to-clean

Price: $29.69

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7) The BILLY by LELO

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Intended use: prostate stimulation

Body safe | Six modes | Waterproof | Easy-to-clean

Price: $139

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8) The Pixie by Sweet Vibrations

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Intended use: clitoral stimulation

Body safe | 10 modes | Waterproof | Small and discreet

Price: $39.99

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9) The Mini Bullet vibrator by Oomph!

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Intended use: clitoral and G-spot stimulation

Body safe | 16 speeds and 10 vibration patterns | Waterproof | Small and discreet

Price: $8.99

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10) The TOR 2 by LELO

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Intended use: stimulation for both partners 

Body safe | Snug but stretchy | Waterproof | Silent | Easy-to-clean

Price: $139

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Marisa Losciale

Marisa Losciale

Marisa Losciale specializes in NSFW culture, audio gear, and photography. A former editorial and photo director for Spoon University at SUNY New Paltz, her work has been featured in the Rockwell Center for American Visual Studies, Post-Trash, the New Paltz Oracle, and the Legislative Gazette.

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