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10 Best BDSM toys infinitely better than ’50 Shades of Grey’

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Marisa Losciale

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Published Aug 4, 2017   Updated Jul 12, 2021, 11:20 am CDT

BDSM has been around much, much longer than Christian Grey (Marquis deSade, anyone?). And there’s a lot more to it than a pair of handcuffs. Plus, you don’t need to be rich to explore the world of BDSM. All you need is a consenting partner, a safeword and a few of these sex toys.

1) Best BDSM kit for beginners: Bed restraints

These restraints are adjustable and durable – so it’s safe to say once your partner is strapped in, they’re not going anywhere. Plus they’re made out of nylon, so you won’t have to fear chafing or irritation.

Reviews claim the straps are simple to use and since the inner lining features some sort of padding, “rope burn” is completely nonexistent. They even allow users to choose how tight they want to be restrained – it’s all in the quick adjustment of a strap!

Price on Amazon: $19.99

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2) Best intro BDSM toy for submissives: Gags

Ah, the wonders of gags. Whether shaped like a bone, or this ball gag if you’re more vanilla, the illustrious gag is a powerful introductory BDSM toy. Whether you’re into sensory play or simple submission, gags are a wonderful way to begin exploring. 

While this dog bone might seem like an odd place to start, we enjoy that it doesn’t fill the entire mouth. That makes it an ideal choice for new explorers who may find a full-on ballgag too intense at first.

Price on Amazon:$13.99

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3) Best BDSM toy for impact play: Paddles

On the opposite end of the BDSM spectrum from the gag is the all mighty paddle. Sure, humans have hands for spanking, but sometimes you need a tool to do the job properly. This lovely hand shaped paddle allows for proper control with your spanking. 

It’s difficult sometimes to know how a hand will spank because of its contours. Thanks to this paddle’s generous handle makes it easy to give just the right level of impact with each swat.

Plus it’s got a nice little support string so you’ll never drop it in the moment.

Price on Amazon: $29.95

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4) Best BDSM gift for your dom: Dog collars

When it comes to something that goes around the neck, you want to make sure you’re buying a quality product. At $44.99 this coller set isn’t cheap, but it’s worth the price.

Featuring top grain leather on the outside and super soft lambskin leather on the inside, this piece is as comfortable as it is pretty. It even comes in four colors.

You’ll also get a lovely metal chain leash, so whether you’re choking your beloved or walking a worm, they’ll always be close. Best of all this collar includes a lifetime guarantee, so you know it’s built to last.

Price on Amazon: $44.99

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5) Best BDSM toy for edging: Vibrators

“Wait,” you might be asking, “what does a vibrator have to do with BDSM?” For you we say, welcome to the wonderful world of edging. Orgasm control is the art of building your partner up to an explosive finish.

Vibrators allow you to rapidly bring pleasure, and just as quickly, take it away. Take your time and learn the art of developing an orgasm.

There’s no feeling like bringing your partner to the edge, pulling back, and finally letting them explode. With this powerful, yet comfortable to use, vibrator you’ll be creating memories that will last a lifetime.

Price on Amazon: $39.62

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6) Best way to say “I’m into BDSM” on a first date: Nipple clamps

Nipple clamps are the gift that keeps on giving, be it during solo play or with a partner. They can provide a delightfully kinky element to your solo masturbation sessions, letting you pull your nipples with one hand as you diddle with the other.

But nipple clamps are also wonderful with a partner. Wearing them is a sign you’re ready for something outside of the ordinary, and they’re a perfect accentuation to any bondage outfit.

Just make sure you communicate with your partner about what your limits are. Tighten them too much and you might experience the bad kind of pain. 

Price on Amazon: $15.12

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7) Safest introductory bondage tool: Pleasure Tape

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Similar to ropes and gags, tape can also serve as a restricting toy. But not just any tape! Although duct tape is strong and durable it can also leave some pretty nasty gunk behind, not to mention it can be hard to remove if you put it on too tight.

That’s what makes bondage tape so important, it’s designed to be protective of skin and hair follicles.  And it’s more versatile than most – tape them up, tape their mouth shut or just bound their joints together.

How you choose to play is up to you, this tape will just help facilitate it. Remember, BDSM puts safety first.

Price on Amazon: $7.50

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8) Best additional to a couple’s sex life: Swings

Sex swings are mythical, something we laugh about in movies but don’t think are possible in our own personal lives. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

No matter your budget, there’s a sex swing that probably works in your living setup. Take this $23.89 door swing for example. Simply put its supports behind your door, hoist your partner in the air, and get boogying. 

Want something a little more complex? Belsiang’s $74.99 premium mountable swing is for you. With 360 degrees of spinning movement, it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.

Just make sure the ceiling can support it before installing. BDSM can be about pain, but it shouldn’t be about broken bones.

Price on Amazon: $23.89 – $74.99

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9) Best intro to BDSM without being bound: Blindfolds

This may seem like the least adventurous toy of them all, but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth trying. Blindfolds work with sensory deprivation, which means by taking away one of your senses any number of others can become heightened.

So you may feel, smell, hear or taste things more intensely than before, simply because you can’t see. And since you can’t see, you don’t know what’s coming next which makes the element of surprise even more extreme.

Price on Amazon: $9.95

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10) Best add-on for penetrating your partner: Harnesses

Harnesses bring a whole new meaning to the phrase “so good it hurts.” After all, overindulgence and too much of something isn’t always a good thing … or is it?

Just strap your vibrator into this harness (or have your partner do it for you) and you can decide for yourself. BDSM isn’t just about impact or stress. Sometimes you can peg your lover too.

Price on Amazon: $18.99

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*First Published: Aug 4, 2017, 8:49 am CDT