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I was chatting with my mom this week about online dating and how utterly frustrating it is for a single gal of a certain age.

She has tried a number of sites over the last few years—Yahoo! Personals (now defunct), Match, OkCupid, and as of last week, Plenty of Fish—and the prospect of finding a boyfriend remains dismal. Hell, she can’t even find a grown up.

You see, my 60 year-old mom almost exclusively receives emails from twenty-something guys.

I wish I were kidding, but I am so not kidding.

I find this incredibly disturbing on multiple levels. These guys are younger than I. Most of their emails teeter on harassment, and I just don’t get why they want to sleep with a woman as old as (or older than) their own mother.

Has the definition of MILF recently changed? According to Wikipedia, my mom is ten years too old to qualify!

In an effort to get the bottom of this trend, I did the two easiest things possible: asked my boyfriend about it and Googled “Why do young men want to have sex with much older women?”

My BF said, “There are men interested in all types of sex trolling the Internet. Some prefer a mature, experienced women.”

I was not satisfied. Why would a guy need his one-night stand woman to be mature?

Ironically, at the very top of my Google search results was a link to a forum on Plenty of Fish, where online daters weighed in on this very issue—for 30 pages.

SteveinHP elaborated on my boyfriend’s point, “…older women are more experienced. It is a badge of honor to some guys to have ‘tagged the cougar.’ Older women tend to know what they want, have less inhibitions, and you do not have to play as many games as you would with a younger girl...”

ChinaShopBull proposes, “Because younger women aren’t giving it up?” and Road Ranger says, “Yep. The young man gets sex with a woman who actually appreciates it and without jumping through the hoops that young women set out.”

regnj chimes in, “women in the 20s are cruel.”

Ah, ha! Tagging cougars aside, it seems young men are sick of chasing hard-to-get young women and playing their reindeer games. They’re thinking, “Can’t I just get laid already? I bought you drinks like a few times.”

These dudes aren’t sickos; they’re just a bit lazy and underappreciated by their female peers. They want a woman who will grab them by the balls, drag them into the bedroom, and perhaps work some anal sex into the mix—not some bitchy, prudish girl who asks, “Do I look fat in this dress?”

I am not endorsing this MILF-seeking behavior (I’m still quite disgusted), but I am willing to admit that now I kinda get it.

I suppose the bright side is if you’re an older woman looking for no-strings-attached sex, there are indeed PLENTY of young, strapping fish in the sea.

Photo by AN HONORABLE GERMAN